Michelangelo Di Battista for InStyle
Jennifer Lopez has a million projects in the works. She’s a weekly host on American Idol, shooting a new TV drama, about to drop her 10th studio album, the head of her own clothing empire for Kohls and mom to 6-year-old twins. We got exhausted just typing that, but Lopez, 44, maintains she has more energy than ever.
“I feel like I felt when I was 28,” she tells the April issue of InStyle magazine. “My bones don’t hurt. I feel great. I actually feel better, more confident. Of course I still have the nerves, but now I know how to control them. When I was in my twenties, I wasn’t sure of myself. Now I can really stretch. I don’t have to stay in the box. At this point I can say to myself, ‘So what if I fall, so what?’ I’m going to get back up.”
And Lopez says she’s in great company now that the cultural perspective towards women in their forties has shifted. “The turning point was a couple of years ago when the September issue of women’s magazines had cover girls who were all over 40 — Jennifer Aniston, Halle Berry, Sandra Bullock, Julia Roberts, me. It was hard not to be happy. That says something about our society. People used to believe their life — or at least their life as a performer — was over at 28 or some ungodly age! God, when I think of myself back then, I had no idea who I was. I think I’m barely getting that under control now.”
Part of finding herself was a difficult divorce from Marc Anthony in 2012 and a new relationship with Casper Smart, 26. And while we want to see her have that happy ending (and the dress she would choose for her wedding day!), Lopez is not in a rush to head down the aisle.
“In the past, love for me has always meant forever, and sure, you still nurse some of those fantasies, but I don’t try to force it anymore,” she reveals. “I hung on to my fairytale ideals for a long time. But where I am now, what I’ve been through, there are no rules. There are lots of ways it can turn out instead of just one.”
For more on Lopez (from her best red carpet looks to her different hairstyles), head over to InStyle.com. The new issue hits stands Friday, March 14. What do you think of her outlook on aging?